READER: Do me a favor, read this. At the bottom there are a couple questions.Go to the bottom where there is a comment box, (or a link that says "__Comments", click on that to get to the comment box.) Leave a comment, I need your feedback. (And, if you know names or details, PLEASE DON'T share them.)
Here we are again.
Only this time I am going to be much more blunt...
I KNOW! You're asking how I could possibly be more blunt than last time! . . .Me too. . .
If you are reading this, you are a friend or a loved one and I trust you. . .or you wouldn't be able to read it... OR you're one of the problems.
SO. . .
To my daughter I say "Sorry Kiddo, I need some feedback"
To my Village I say "Hey, You think this'll do it?"
And to the IDIOTS who couldn't read the first blog about this, I say in smaller words "Find some thing to do with your time that does not have any thing to do with my children and I" If that doesn't make sense maybe you shouldn't be using a computer. . .
If I sound a little angry or rude. . .I'm pretty pissed off. . .so, sorry. . .I'm usually better behaved than this. . .butttttttttt. . .I'm done.
FIRST:
If you want to give me advice about parenting you must:
1.Be older than me
OR
2.Have a child older than both or either of mine(depending on which you are giving your opinion on)(NOTE:If this is the case, your child should also be a fairly decent, reasonable and well behaved human being.)
OR
3.Have some kind of education in Counseling, Child Rearing, or Psychology
ADDITIONALLY
I must like you enough to want to hear you talk about ANYTHING, you can see how that works. . .
AND
You should be well educated and lack ignorance...
SECOND:
Here are the rules:
1.You will NOT talk badly to my children about people including their MOTHER, AUNTS, UNCLES, GRANDPARENTS, FRIENDS, or STRANGERS who are different weights, races, religions etc.
2.If you are asked by one of my children to stop talking badly about someone or something, YOU MUST RESPECT THEM AND STOP.
3.When you invite them to do something, you need to follow through. If plans change you should talk to them and let them decide if they still want to participate.
4.When you talk to my children you WILL be encouraging, positive, and open minded. You will not tell them they are not capable of doing things, but rather encourage different, positive options instead.
5.You will respect their individuality and understand that how they wear their hair, clothes, make up, their weight, music, movies, television shows, and books are a part of who they choose to be;as long as it is not unsafe.
6.You will not interfere in, negate or talk badly to my children about my parenting. You will not lie to me or deceive me about where my children are, where they go, who they are with or who they talk to. You will not encourage my children to lie to me or deceive me.
7.You will not encourage my children to speak to ANY adult with disrespect INCLUDING telling them to "Shut up", Quit bossing them around or "Go Home To Mommy" (Just want to be 100% clear here, these are real life examples of things grown adults recommended to my daughter as things she should say to other adults; thankfully she is more intelligent than those adults and has not opted to use these phrases).
YOU WILL:
*Encourage a good relationship between my children and their parents.
*Speak to them with respect
*Speak about others around them with respect
*Encourage my children to talk to their parents about problems they are having, things they disagree with, or situations that make them uncomfortable.
*COME TO ME IMMEDIATELY with any unsafe secrets, regardless of promises they made you keep.
If you cannot do these things you will not be in contact with my children. Not by phone, email, text message, in person, or by carrier pigeon. REGARDLESS of who you are, how important you are to them, or how important they are to you.
If you truly cared about them, their well-being and their happiness. . .I WOULDN'T EVEN HAVE TO SAY ANY OF THIS!!! You would already KNOW it.
AND not only am I legally, morally and spiritually ALLOWED to do this; but if I didn't, THEN I would be neglecting the welfare of my children.
OH! And if you find yourself with a little give on my end, you may not want to step right in and break the rules again. Not only do you look like a moron, but it won't be so easy next time.
SO, my questions to you folks are as follows:
1.Do I have the right to keep my children from people, regardless of their relationship to my children, if the rules are broken?
2.Are any of the rules things people should really need to be TOLD? Or would you consider them common sense?
3.Are any of the things that I have said in this post or in the other (My adventures in:Mother Knows Best)out of line, uncalled for, or unreasonable?
4.If these things were happening to you(cause I wouldn't have to write a rule if it weren't a problem),or if you knew someone who was breaking the rules with someone else's children, what would you do?
Feel free to add anything else you like, even if you disagree with me. I don't think I could hear worse than the string of ignorant insults I got the last time.
